There is no spider in your web
No words can describe the sensation of walking into a spider web- no matter if you’re running late to pick your child or just mindlessly walking down a hallway, the minute you feel the web of the spider’s silk cling to your face, you freak out. To an observer, it looks as though you’ve suddenly lost your mind. Seizing in terror, you drop everything and begin clawing at your face. After raking your fingers through your scalp and swatting your body, you end up looking like the lead singer of a big-haired 80’s rock band who slept in his car all night. In short, you look a hot mess.
When you walk through a spider web, what do you fear most, the spider or the web? If you’re anything like me, you fear the end result, the spider. In my mind’s eye, I can see a pissed off spider, in retaliation for my destroying its web work-of-art, scurrying down my shirt collar, biting my neck, poisoning my bloodstream, and killing me instantly-leaving behind my wife and 4 kids. Wow, in a matter of seconds, I go from minding my own business, to that of destruction and death. And it’s all a lie.
Out of a population of over 316 million Americans, fewer than 7 people die from a spider bite each year. (That’s a .0000000221319% chance by the way). Actually, you’re 8x more likely to die from a bee sting than from a spider bite. What you feel is real, but what you fear is not.
Isn’t this what usually happens in life? One minute you’re strolling through life and suddenly you become entangled in one of life’s unseen webs. A turning economy destroys your credit and pushes you into bankruptcy; after 25 years of being married to, who you thought was your best friend, is ending in divorce; after literally giving everything to your career-missing countless dinner dates, birthday parties, recitals, and basketball games, your employer suddenly eliminates your position-leaving you to pick up the fragments of your once thriving career. Bullying, discrimination, errant choices –it doesn’t matter because life’s webs do not discriminate-we all walk through them.
But the webs in your life are temporary, not terminal. Yes, what you are going through sucks-often it feels as if there is no end in site, but the good times aren’t final nor are these bad times fatal. Every darkness ends in sunrise; there is healing on the other side of this hurt. You will get through this because…
…there is no spider in your web.