The grass is only greener where you water it. The power of perspective & thief of comparison.
Two words kept bubbling up in this section Joshua Medcalf ‘s book, “Chop Wood. Carry Water.”
Comparison and Perspective.
Ironically, both of these words were discussed in previous episodes of The Sales Life Podcast. In episode 588, Emmy Award winning artist Tasia Valenza’s favorite saying is, “Comparison is the thief of happiness.” And in Episode 606, best-selling author Zack Friedman said that the first behavior to begin living The Lemonade Life is the switch of perspective.
Comparison is a trap and we know it yet we still fall for it!
Let me ask you this, when you compare yourself to someone else, do you really walk away feeling better? Hell no, you feel worse, because you see how far you’re behind.
And social media has made it even worse. There was always someone doing better than you, but now that you have instant access to anyone in the world, you can really see what a loser you are.
So you have to put some P on that C.
Put some perspective on that comparison.
Medcalf writes, #1. “Comparison is the thief of joy. #2. “The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it,.”
“True nobility, is not being superior to the other person. It’s being superior to your former self. The person who chops wood and carries water, whether they’re up by 20 points or down by 20 points crushes the field in the long run because they’re crushing the former version of themselves who was focused solely on winning.”
How would you answer if I asked you, “Do you want to win, or do you want to succeed?”
Without thinking you’d probably say that you want to win, but winning is playing the short game. It only has one outcome and if you keep getting blown out in your SalesLife, you’re likely to give up and quit.
But if instead you answer that you want to succeed, well that’s playing the long game.
That’s the person who chops wood, carries water because success is a mixture of wins and losses, and because you see it as a marathon and not a sprint, you’re the one who’ll succeed and surpass your former self who only wanted to win.
Look, here’s the real real. There’s always going to be someone younger, smarter, faster, stronger, richer and more experienced than you. Chasing that image will only leave you hollow and depressed. Just look at the tragic ending to the man who literally wrote the book on Delivering Happiness, Zappos. Tony Hsieh. Even the man who sold his company to Amazon for over a billion dollars left this world hollow and depressed.
Hip hop legend Rakim’s favorite mantra is,”Always be better than yourself.” Even when music executives were bending his ear to change his style to gangsta rap, Rakim kept flowing positivity.
(Back to the book.) “Compare and measure yourself to your potential.”
And that got me to thinking, what is potential?
Potential is defined as what’s possible, as opposed to actual; capable of becoming.
So my question to you is,
“Are you living an actual life or a possible life?”
“Are you capable of becoming?”
“Of course, Marsh, I’m capable….”
Then are you willing?
(Back to the book) “If it rains bottle the water and sell it. If the sun is shining plant a garden…”
And I added something else.
If someone or something, takes a crap on you, plant roses because even a rose has to go through shit to become a rose.Tweet
The point is, use what you’ve already been given.
You have so many assets, yet you don’t use it because you don’t see it and you don’t see it because you’re too busy comparing your “disadvantages” to the next man’s “advantages.”
That’s a losing bet. You’re playing Russian roulette with Life and one day it’s going to fire with the wrong results.
So keep it simple. Chop wood. Carry water. Go out there and crush your former self.
Stay amazing. Stay in The Sales Life.
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